Tuesday, December 21, 2010

Adoption of Mariano

A recent Massachusetts Family Court decision, In re Adoption of Mariano, 77 Mass. App. Ct. 656 (Massachusetts Court of Appeals, September 14, 2010), denied a parent's ability to voluntarily give up their parental rights to the other parent based on the theory of the child's best interest and the parent's financial responsibility to that child.

The fact pattern, noted on the American Bar Association Family Law Section Case Update for September/October/November 2010, was as follows: By agreement, the divorcing parents of an infant son proposed a single parent adoption by which the father would relinquish all rights and duties toward the son and the mother would assume the role of sole parent. A judge of the Probate and Family Court conducted an evidentiary hearing, composed findings of fact and conclusions of law, and rejected the father's adoption surrender and the mother's adoption petition. The appellate court affirmed, holding that divorcing parents may not bargain away the best interests of their children in general, and the children's right to support, financial or otherwise, from either one of them in particular.

To Read the opinion (Social Law Library @ www.socialaw.com)


In my practice, I am often asked by one parent if the other parent can give up their rights to the child(ren) because that other parent is uninvolved or disinterested. My response is typically "not likely" given the existing Rhode Island decisions that have addressed similar issues, but we do not have to stop there. I am not aware of a current Rhode Island case addressing this specific question and Rhode Island is not bound by a Massachusetts decision, but a Rhode Island Court can consider what other states have decided when they are reaching a decision for a the first time on a specific issue.

If you are in a situation where your child's other parent is uninvolved or disinterested, or you feel he or she should not be involved with the child for the child's best interest, you should call our office to discuss what is happening, and what options may be available to you. In the alternative, if the parent of your child is trying to have your rights as a parent terminated because you cannot be involved on a day to day basis for reasons such as military deployment or other occupational commitments, we may be able to help.

Friday, December 17, 2010

Helping Children Cope with Divorce

DIVORCE BOOK REVIEWS

Reviewer: Nancy Johnson-Gallagher. LICSW, Mediator

CHILDREN’S BOOKS

Helping Your Kids Cope with Divorce, The Sandcastles Way, Gary Neuman, LMHC, 1998

A Great guide for helping children adjust. The book is based on the “The Sandcastles Way Divorce Therapy Program” which has been implemented in many family courts. This book is a great reference book that focuses in deeply on the children’s experience with a lot of case presentation to normalize even the most complicated cases.


Thursday, December 16, 2010

Newport RI Divorce Attorneys Communicate

A lawyer is asking our office to prepare a Military Qualifying Court Order (like a QDRO) to divide a pension of a military member who is in the reserves. She sent the following message this week which illustrates that we will confer with divorce attorneys in advance of their negotiation or their court date as a “good will” gesture in hopes that when the time comes to draft the pension division order we will be asked to draft that Order:

Your office is prompt as always; I have already heard from Kristy in regard to the two QDROs. You were a big help to me on this same case last spring, and it is very appropriate that your office receive a thank you.

Friday, December 10, 2010

RI Divorce Attorney Speaks at RI Mediators Seminar

Law Office of Jeremy Howe Provides Training With RI Mediators Association


December, 2010 – Newport, RI – On October 27, 2010, Attorney Jeremy Howe and Nancy Johnson-Gallagher, LICSW, presented a two hour training seminar for the Rhode Island Mediators Association regarding Mediating Divorce Cases, Advanced Financial Considerations. The seminar was held at the Providence campus of Roger William University and was attended by 22 individuals including two retired judge-mediators, experienced mediators, new mediators and students.

Attorney Howe commented on his involvement by stating, “We were pleased with the evaluations and were especially pleased that they seemed to appreciate our emphasis on 'Organizing the Data and Balancing the Power.'”

The Rhode Island Mediators Association is a non-profit association dedicated to serving and supporting Rhode Island Mediators, and serves as a resource for locating practicing mediators in RI.

Thursday, December 9, 2010

RI Child Support Issues and Financial Matters

Newport RI Child Support Attorney Jeremy Howe posts the following testimonial from a client:


A client came in to see Jeremy in early November (2010) regarding a post-divorce issue regarding child support and other financial issues regarding the children.

Jeremy’s advice was more “interest-based” than “law-based”:

What was the client’s primary interest? Answer, “The well-being of my children.”

What action best promotes that interest? Answer, “Letting matters lie.”

After the consultation, the client decided not to file a Motion in the Family Court. Any other response would have put the client and his ex-wife back into a contested hearing in court and the children would inevitably suffer from the discord.

About a week after the consultation, the client paid his bill and wrote these words:

“Thank you so very much for the wise counsel… as always.”

Wednesday, December 1, 2010

Mom's House, Dad's House Helps Children Cope with Divorce

DIVORCE BOOK REVIEWS

Reviewer: Nancy Johnson-Gallagher. LICSW, Mediator


PARENT’S BOOKS

Mom’s House, Dad’s House: Making Two Homes for Your Child, Isolina Ricci, PhD, 1980, 1997.

A classic, this book has been helping parents transition to co-parenting in separate homes for 30 years, and is still the “go to” book on the issues. The real strength of this book is that it helps the adults to understand where they are in the process of divorce (and developmentally) and how that impacts their children. It gives great specifics on how to communicate better, identifying styles of conflict in divorcing couples, and setting up “two homes” for your children.